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Newsletter 020
In "Self Improvement Front Line" this week:
* Do You Know What Triggers You Into Action?
* 5 Powerful Traits to Develop In Your Life
* 10 Tips For Handling Conflict
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Do You Know What Triggers You Into Action?
Here in the UK we've recently had the World Track Cycling
Championships and due to the outstanding success of the Great
Britain Team in winning 9 Gold Medals I, like many others,
suddenly became aware of what an exciting sport it is to watch.
I'm looking forward to following it again when the Beijing
Olympics begin later in the year.
Sporting achievement is probably one of the most visible
examples of individuals setting and achieving their goals. And
those Gold Medal Winners can be an example to us all. But one
of the most important points that came across on the TV
interviews was the value of the input of the whole team,
including coaches, mechanics, and interestingly a sports
psychologist.
The psychologist was interviewed and one aspect of his work
particlularly stood out as being relevant to all of us. He
talked about how each member of the team needed an individual
approach, but that he had developed with each of them "trigger"
words that would get them into the right mindset. He talked of
one rider who got very nervous prior to races but who by
simply focusing on these trigger words would quickly be ready
to go - she won two Gold and one Silver Medal incidentally.
Now I'm certainly not a qualified psychologist or psychiatrist
but can see the value of using similar words, phrases, or even
actions to get your mind focussed on achieving your goals for
success.
Having positively phrased goals is a part of this so that when
any doubts enter your mind you can quickly dismiss them. That's
why it is so important to write your goals down and keep them
handy so that you can quickly read them and re-affirm your
intent.
It's also vital to have positive definite goals. For example
if you have a financial goal like getting rid of your debts
then it is essential to have a statement like,
"By doing "X" in order to earn "Y" each day, I always have
enough money to pay all my bills and do the thngs I enjoy."
(Where "X" is the action needed to earn the amount of money
represented by "Y").
That's far more posititve and so effective than just stating,
"I am going to get out of debt"
As soon as your subconscious mind hears the word "debt" it
immediately has something negative to focus on rather than the
positive action stated in the first sentence. So your trigger
will be the thought of always being able to pay your bills.
This can be extended to other areas and you should look at
your goals to identify what positive triggers you can identify
to keep you focused on achieving them.
So try to find those triggers that will help to keep you on
track for success.
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5 Powerful Traits to Develop In Your Life
By Pat Brill
You can think of these traits as the building blocks...the
foundation.. .of your growth into a successful life. Review
these abbreviated traits and decide which one you want to
start building into your life.
==>The Power of Concentration
People make their own world. The power of concentration
enables a person to do better work and to produce the best
that they are capable of doing. Concentration is related to
persistence and definiteness of purpose and it arises
chiefly from being deeply interested in one's focus. To
cultivate concentration you must think and do only one
thing at a time.
By constantly keeping your purpose before you, by bending
your energies to it, you can eventually attain your highest
goals. The power of concentration lies in your ability to
stay focused with a clear purpose as to what you want to
accomplish.
==>The Power of Self-Confidence
How you think affects every part of your life. Letting
your mind habitually dwell upon thoughts of doubt, failure,
and inefficiency will never build your "confidence" muscles.
Indecision is a frequent cause of lack of self-confidence.
People hesitate to move forward for fear that they might do
the wrong thing. If you are self-conscious or timid, you
are telling yourself that you are afraid.
The building of self-confidence is not difficult, but it
requires patience and intelligent effort. You need to
embrace the desire to build your self-confidence. Start
small by replacing your negative self-talk with words of
encouragement, compassion and self-respect. Another focus
is to start working on one goal, creating specific action
steps you will need to take to complete the goal and a plan
on when you will complete it. Confidence breeds
confidence. Each step that you take to build your
"confidence" muscles enhances your life.
==>The Power of Overcoming Self-Consciousness
Do you spend too much time wondering what others think and
say? Are you constantly studying the impression you are
making upon people? This super sensitivity causes you to
imagine being criticized, slighted, and unfairly condemned
by those who all the while are absorbed in their own
affairs.
Self-consciousness can make you do things you don't want to
do. Do you say, "yes" when you really want to say "no"?
This behavior robs you of your power and individuality.
Focus your attention firmly upon how great you are...not an
imitator of someone else.
==>The Power of Being Positive
One way to start on the path of managing your thoughts is
to add affirmations to your life. When you are
surrounded by negative thoughts, take a few minutes several
times a day to focus your attention on your affirmations.
We all have negative thoughts we repeat to ourselves each
day. Do you say, "I am stupid" when you misunderstand
something or didn't see the issue right away? What about
"I am fat or always fail at what I do"? Whatever negative
statements you create, take the time to neutralize them
with a more positive perspective. "I am self-confident, "
"I am strong," "I am capable," "I am a success." These
affirmations can be made both silently or spoken aloud, and
always say them with deep conviction of the truth behind
the affirmation.
==>The Power of Imagination and Initiative
All of us have imagination. ..it all depends where we focus
our imagination. Every thing that was created in the world
first came from someone's imagination.
Imagination is a gallery in which we hang pictures, both of
what we have done and what we intend to do. We may not
always turn these pictures into realities at once, but they
are there to interest and encourage us, and to come to our
aid when needed.
Fear is destructive for building one's imagination. It
stops you from playing with ideas or creating a list of
possibilities for your life.
We are all creative...we are imagining something most of
the time. Imagination plays in a critical role in your
life everyday. Second in importance to imagination is the
ability to initiate and make happen what we imagine.
==>Final Thoughts
Grab a cup of coffee (or your choice of drink), sit back
and decide which trait you want to focus your attention on
at this point in your life. Whatever choice you make
will affect the other traits because they are all
interdependent on each other. Start slowly and keep moving
in a positive direction.
About the Author:
Pat Brill is co-author of "9 Steps to Starting a Women's
Group". To download your Free copy of this e-book, go to
http://www.Womens-Group.net .
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10 Tips For Handling Conflict
At some time in our lives most of us encounter situations where
we become involved in conflict with others. It may be a simple
difference of opinion, a feeling that you have been treated
disrespectfully, a challenge to your beliefs or authority, or
a whole host of other potential grievances. And how you handle
it is critical to your feelings, emotions, and relationships.
This is a big topic but here are ten tips that will help you
if you are faced with conflict yourself:
1. Always Be Honest. Be sure to be yourself and don't do or
say things because you think that's what is expected. Be
yourself and trust yourself.
2. Stay Calm and Rational. Avoid letting emotions take over
and speak in a calm, rational way. That will earn you far
more respect than by shouting and raging.
3. Use ``I'' Statements. Let the other person know how you
feel, how you react, and how you are affected by the conflict.
4. Be Assertive, But Not Aggressive. Ensure you can take
charge of the situation but without resorting to aggressive
behavior or threats.
5. Show Respect. It is vital that you retain respect for both
yourself and the other person involved. Trading insults will
only make the matter worse. If you find that disrespect is
creeping in on either side bring the matter to a halt as soon
as possible and agree to resolve it when you have both had
time to calm down.
6.Avoid Blaming. You must keep an open discussion going
without attaching blame. It will ensure that both parties
understand how they are affected by the conflict.
7. Forgive. Sometimes it's hard to do but the quality of
forgiveness should never be forgotten. If you approach life
with forgiveness in your heart then all conflict can be
overcome.
8. Apologize or Admit You Were Wrong.It can take courage and
conviction to admit you were wrong or made a mistake but it
is essential to avoid a stalemate developing in the conflict.
Apologize for any wrong on your part and you will encourage
the same show of remorse from the other party.
9.Be Willing to Compromise. Clinging stubbornly to your
position is to be avoided. To resolve conflict it is
essential that each party feels they have gained something
- there should not be a winner and a loser.So compromise is
a necessity.
10.Forget. Once you have found a solution you must be
prepared to let go and move on. It should not be something
that can be dragged up in the future. A good exercise is to
write down how the conflict has been resolved. Then forget
it!
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